11 March 2021 — ARGUING THE TOSS or AGREEING TO DISAGREE

I still remember when I would ‘argue the toss’ no matter what, driven by a need to prove myself right. However, there came a time when I could no longer see the point of it, as when I and the other person were fixed in our views and both convinced that we were right, neither of us was going to convince the other differently.

Perhaps the need not to always prove one’s self comes with maturity!! However, at times perhaps, if the disagreement is over a serious matter which could cause harm or distress, then it may be right to bring in a third person to negotiate.

THE POINT OF POWER, however, is only OURS IN THE MOMENT when we can let things RISE AND FALL and not allow the mind to go over and over a matter which is making us feel uncomfortable. And, of course, this requires us to balance both hemispheres of the brain rather than allowing the left brain hemisphere — our rational minds — to chatter away and to dominate our minds.

PONDER POINTS — Why am I doubting myself? What do I need to prove to myself? Why is my self esteem so low?