14 May 2022 — SELF ESTEEM

The free flow of your emotions will always lead you back to your conscious beliefs if you do not impede them. (Jane Roberts — The Nature of Personal Reality)

Our CONSCIOUS BELIEFS are what cause us to be ATTACHED to thinking people should act in certain ways and not in others

It is, indeed, our belief system which causes us to judge ourselves and others and to tell ourselves that ‘we’ or ‘they’ should have acted in THIS way and not THAT WAY.

‘A man who is sure of himself is not angry at every slight done him, nor does he carry grudges. A man who fears for his own worth, however, is furious under such conditions.’ (ibid)

Another way of defining Self Esteem I would suggest is loving one’s self warts and all. If we can be tolerant and loving towards ourselves then I believe we can be tolerant and loving towards others.

Whilst we are aware of the circumstances which have brought us to the emotional and mental state in which we find ourselves, we are usually totally unaware of the circumstances which have contributed to others’ actions unless they are close family or friends.

If our SELF ESTEEM is indeed HIGH and we are happy with who we are, we are naturally tolerant towards others and able to TREAT THEM IN A WAY IN WHICH WE LIKE TO BE TREATED.

When we are happy and accepting of who we are i.e. when our SELF ESTEEM is HIGH, we have no need or inclination to prove ourselves and OUR EMOTIONS FLOW FREELY and lead us back to our CONSCIOUS BELIEFS!

PONDER POINTS: my thoughts on reading this are …my feelings on reading this are …..I find myself being critical of myself when…the last occasion on which I felt the need to prove myself was….the person/s I am still carrying a grudge against is/are…. the person/s whom I feel may be carrying a grudge against me are…