When we are young we naturally do whatever makes us happy and gives us joy without fearing what other people will think. We have an inherent sense of knowing what WILL and what WILL NOT harm us until we are socialised out of this awareness, and learn, like the adults in our lives before us did, to fear being thought silly by others or made fun of. Our rational minds ‘kick in’ and we start to weigh up rationally the ‘rights’ and ‘wrongs’ of situations and to worry about how others will view us.

Back in the 1940’s there was a film and song called ‘Singing and dancing in the Rain’. As young children we love splashing in puddles and don’t mind the rain and getting wet until we are socialised into NOT splashing in puddles and to not liking being wet.

Today as an elder adult I love splashing in puddles and generally like the rain and don’t mind getting wet.

The point I am attempting to make, however, is NOT that everyone should splash in puddles or not mind getting wet, but simply that we should feel free to act in ways which please us instead of fearing being criticised or judged for how we act and feeling that we must conform and ‘act our age’.

I am often being told by friends who have my best interests at heart, to stay in the dry and keep warm and strangers become very genuinely concerned for me when they see me hugging trees!!

The POINT OF POWER IS NOT MINE I feel, when I am concerned about what other people think of me. It is mine when I am not afraid to do the things which bring me joy, however foolish these things might seem to others as long as I don’t harm others or the environment.



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Barbara Thorne: The Point of Power is Now

My writing is based on the understanding that ‘we’, (each of us individually) create our own reality through our feelings, thoughts and actions.